The significant problems we have cannot be solved at the same level of thinking with which we created them. Albert Einstein
Can you feel the difference in your body between knowing that something “just feels right” versus “needing or wanting something to be right”?
For me, the first is usually accompanied by a deep sensation of ease while the latter often generates anxiety, fear, anger, jealousy, shame, etc. If you can experience the difference between these, it seems to me, you are a step closer to knowing authenticity and personal integrity.
The place where I veer from the centre of my life path is when I override what “just feels right...to me” in favour of what I think is right…by externalizing a decision through rationalizations, justifications and reasons.
The litmus test as to whether or not I am living my own unique life versus trying to feel good or safe by pleasing others or satisfying cultural/societal conventions, is the feeling of knowing in my core that something is right...for me.
I am offered an invitation to either think or feel with every decision I make: What do I want to eat? What do I want to wear? Who do I want to share time with? Do I want to leave my job? Do I want to start/end a relationship? Is this the house/car/etc. I want to purchase?. I am being offered an opportunity to live more deeply, honestly and authentically at every turn.
Albert Einstein has been credited with saying, “the significant problems we have cannot be solved at the same level of thinking with which we created them.” So perhaps we can solve them with more feeling.